In life,
There will always be some people who make you feel like shielding them away
from any more pain than they already had.
It does not necessary means you are in love with them(though it could be one of the reasons),
but it is more of you just not wishing to see them hurt
so badly.
ever.
again.
The Lion~~
A friend tagged me in a post she made.
It was a simple thing, tagging me in an essay she found.
but….
It touched me. For once I felt good after reading the essay. It ease bit of my pain and… hey, at least I know someone still think I am a nice guy! =)
Title: Ode to the Nice Guys
This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.
The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.
The link: http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/26inxf/www.stwing.upenn.edu/%257Ejenf/writing/rant04.html
The Lion~~
下雨天了怎么办 我好想你
不敢打给你 我找不到原因
什么失眠的声音
变得好熟悉
沉默的场景 做你的代替
陪我听雨滴
期待让人越来越沉迷
谁和我一样
等不到他的谁
爱上你我总在学会
寂寞的滋味
一个人撑伞 一个人擦泪
一个人好累
怎样的雨 怎样的夜
怎样的我能让你更想念
雨要多大
天要多黑 才能够有你的体贴
其实 没有我你分不清那些
彻别 接近还能多一些
别说你会难过
别说你想改变
被爱的人不用道歉
期待让人越来越疲惫
谁和我一样
等不到他的谁
爱上你我总在学会
寂寞的滋味
一个人撑伞 一个人擦泪
一个人好累
怎样的雨 怎样的夜
怎样的我能让你更想念
雨要多大
天要多黑 才能够有你的体贴
其实 没有我你分不清那些
彻别 接近还能多一些
别说你会难过
别说你想改变
被爱的人不用道歉
怎样的雨 怎样的夜
怎样的我能让你更想念
雨要多大
天要多黑 才能够有你的体贴
其实 没有我你分不清那些
彻别 接近还能多一些
别说你会难过
别说你想改变
被爱的人不用道歉
The Lion~~
I can take the rain on the roof of this empty house
That don’t bother me
I can take a few tears now
and then and just let ’em out
I’m not afraid to cry every once in a while
Even though going on with you gone still upsets me
There are days every now and again I pretend I’m ok
But that’s not what gets me
What hurts the most
Was being so close
And having so much to say
And watching you walk away
And never knowing
What could have been
And not seeing that loving you
Is what I was tryin’ to do
It’s hard to deal with the pain
of losing you everywhere I go
But I’m doin’ It
It’s hard to force that smile
when I see our old friends and I’m alone
Still Harder
Getting up, getting dressed,
livin’ with this regret
But I know if I could do it over
I would trade give away all the words
that I saved in my heart
That I left unspoken
What hurts the most
Is being so close
And having so much to say
And watching you walk away
And never knowing
What could have been
And not seeing that loving you
Is what I was trying to do
What hurts the most was being so close
And having so much to say
And watching you walk away
And never knowing
What could have been
And not seeing that loving you
Is what I was trying to do
Not seeing that loving you
That’s what I was trying to do
The Lion~~
I was told by someone, something is gonna happen.
and so…
I waited..
&
Waited…
&
Waited…
&
Waited….
But nothing happened.
Thus, take everything with a pinch of salt.
Lower your expectation or even, dont expect anything.
Only in this way will you not feel unhappy.
But why must say it out in the 1st place?
Shouldn’t had left me with a sense of expectation right? =)
The Lion~~
If anyone asks, I’ll tell them we both just moved on
When people all stare I’ll pretend that I don’t hear them talk
Whenever I see you,
I’ll swallow my pride
and bite my tongue
Pretend I’m okay with it all
Act like there’s nothing wrong
Is it over yet?
Can I open my eyes?
Is this as hard as it gets?
Is this what it feels like to really cry?
Cry
If anyone asks, I’ll tell them we just grew apart
Yeah what do I care
If they believe me or not
Whenever I feel Your memory is breaking my heart
I’ll pretend I’m okay with it all
Act like there’s nothing wrong
Is it over yet?
Can I open my eyes?
Is this as hard as it gets?
Is this what it feels like to really cry?
Cry
I’m talking in circles
I’m lying, they know it
Why won’t this just all go away
Is it over yet?
Can I open my eyes?
Is this as hard as it gets?
Is this what it feels like to really cry?
Cry
Cry
The Lion~~
I had actually meant to keep this post as a private post.
However, i think not much people do come here and take a look so I shall share this post to those who do come and take a look here.
This post is rather personal. Because, it talks about one of my greatest fear and phobia.
Since god know when, I had always had a deep phobia of going to the hospital. I dont know why, but i just have a fear of going there, be it visiting or what other reasons.
Have you all ever witness a person passing away in front of your very eyes? I did.
My uncle passed away from Liver cancer right in front of my very eyes as i was by his bedside with my cousin when he passed away.
To be honest, i was traumatized. Call me weak. But i had since grown a fear toward hearing news of people dying or very sick. Combined with my fear of hospital, this had became one of my major phobia in life.
My grandfather fell very sick the past week. It seems to be so bad that my mom and aunts seems to be planning for the worst. I am not very close to my grandfather though they alway say he dote on me the most, maybe cause i am the eldest grandson. However, because of my deep phobia, i dont really dare to go hospital visit him much.
I did went. but my mum scare the shit out of me when she sort of wake my grandfather up and my grandfather was quite “agitated” after seeing me. I think he was just happy that i was there but i was traumatized by his reaction. I really really really dont wish to see someone pass away in front of me “live” again. I know there would come a day where i might see my parent pass away but not now, not so soon after i had seen my uncle pass away. Call me unfilial or what. But i really have this deep deep fear of it.
My work life had been messy too. I love my job. But it seems the boss is very very irresponsible. Pay is constantly late. A lot of supplier is chasing for payment and we are the one facing them, not him. It is not like he dont have money. He is filthy rich but he doesnt feel the concern of his employee. I think alot of people in the office is alr planning to quit. I dont wanna say out too much of the problem here but it is really giving me headache. Even i wanna buy insurance now also abit scare to commit.
It seems my bros are all busy falling in love. I am really happy for them and i see some of them behaving so so so differently from their previous ways/relationship. However, suddenly it seems i am so lonely. 3 of my best bros are now dating/in a relationship. It make me thinks of stuffs i should not be thinking about. It make me react in ways i am not supposed to react. People busy falling in love, by right i should be busy falling out of love and should start falling in love again. But..
I had predicted that after so many weeks of Up season, the sucky season should be starting soon. Hope i am wrong, but i sense it coming.. lolz.
My life seems to be quite empty. I find myself scrolling down the phonebook. I see people who i can call out. Yet i dun feel comfortable hanging out with some of them. It alway end up at the name and number of that few people. What can i do to improve my life? I really need a new lease of life. Anyone can advise me?
I had not told anyone about any of the things above. I think cause they busy, no time for me. or i dont know how to tell them. So this had all been kept in my heart.
I dont think many people would see this. Wan, i think u might see this but dun go tell other people. Cause, this post is only meant to be for people who come here and read this.
Ok, ranting over. Dont worry people. Alex is a guy who will alway have a smile when he is facing the outside world. And he is an optimistic guy. =)
P.S: I will be going on a two week PAID leave starting from 17th to 31st May. Reason being because of so many things stuck at work, Boss had ask us to rest at home and not face all the issue at work. I dont know how to tell mum so i had told a few people it is because my office is undergoing renovations. So if anyone by any luck chance upon here, feel free to ask me out for the next 2 week. Staying at home might not be the best thing for me.. =)
The Lion~~
While working at the Food fair at my company restaurant’s booth, I sort of witness many interesting and fascinating situations, happening and thus, sort of had this perspective and modified it to fit myself.
I do not dare to hold your hand, because of my sweaty palm
But, My hand will forever be here whenever and wherever you need it to be.
I do not have the car to drive you around, cause I still cant afford it
But, I shall walk beside you, no matter how far or how tedious the journey is.
I do not have the money to buy you everything you want
But, I swear that I will provide you with everything Money cant buy.
I do not have the courage to tell you I can give you happiness now
But, I will spend my entire life time assuring you that my happiness is built upon your happiness.
Why this perspective?
Because of a lot of things I saw and hear.
It set me thinking.
The Lion~~
~~When Speech Can't Express Themselves~~ 